How Technology Can Help Co-Parents Communicate Better

Using Software Systems to Improve Co-Parenting

One of the keys to a successful co-parenting relationship is communication between the ex-spouses as just over 50 percent of parents are remarried or recoupled. If conversations are respectful and professional, strife will be lessened, and there will be more harmony for the children. There is some help available for high-conflict situations in which the parents have difficulty communicating without fighting.

Third-Party Apps Can Help With Your Tone

There are third-party systems that can host communications between the parents. These are usually ordered by the court when two parties have a history of acrimony and conflict. All communications are done through the third-party system, and the parents are generally not even allowed to text each other unless there is some kind of a pressing, time-sensitive issue that cannot be handled through the communication system.

Many of these systems have artificial intelligence features that scan messages before they are sent to examine the body of the message. The system has the ability to spot words with a negative tone and highlight them before the email is sent. This gives the writer time to stop and review the message to make sure that he or she really intended to send a message with those words. Oftentimes, the writer does not realize that there is a negative tone to his or her message and needs some extra help to spot areas that could lead to trouble. The writer then has the ability to choose different words that may not lead to conflict.

Judges Can Access the Messages

All communications through these systems are generally saved and cannot be deleted. This means that in the event that there is a matter that goes to court, a family law judge has access to all of the messages and can easily read the relevant communications. This knowledge should help the parties learn to be a little more restrained when dealing with each other since these systems are the equivalent of not being able to take back a combative email.

Reduce Your Stress Levels With Better Communication

Even if you do not like your ex-spouse, these systems can help your communication improve to the point where the co-parenting relationship may become more civil. Less conflict can help reduce your stress level because constant arguing reaches a point where it can wear you down over time. Therefore, these systems are generally a great idea for increasing the level of harmony. In a worst-case scenario, these software systems are an extra layer of protection for you in a litigious relationship.

Other Features to Improve Co-Parenting

Not only is there help with communication, but there are also calendars and other features to improve all aspects of the co-parenting relationship. Many of these software systems even have banking features that allow for money transfers and other accountability tools to make sure that each parent responds to the other. The aspects of the relationship that have been chaotic can be managed, bringing with it some relief to struggling co-parents.

How to Implement These Systems

Your family lawyer can help you figure out the best strategy for adding this type of communication to your custody agreement. In some cases, the judge will order this software on his or her own when he or she sees that there is a contentious relationship. Of course, you can always seek a modification to your custody agreement that states that all communications are to be through a third-party software application.

These Systems Can Help You Get on a Better Path

In many cases, this is the solution that enables divided families to engage in better communications. Many co-parents have reported that these communications systems helped improve their overall relationships and created more of a sense of normalcy for their children.

These software packages are not free, but they are money well-spent when there is an improvement in your relationship. Any conflict or litigation that is averted means less time battling it out in court, so these can be worth your while. Therefore, if your ex-spouse has requested one of these communications systems, be open to considering it.

The Law Office of Joanne Kleiner in Jenkintown, PA, stands ready to assist you in either strategically avoiding court or litigating if it is unavoidable. Call us today at (215) 886-1266 to set up a consultation with our family lawyer in Jenkintown.